On Spending Time Alone

Last week was really unusual for me because I spent a lot of time alone. I've been thinking about this issue of mine a lot lately. I've never done anything alone. Like, ever. Sit at a coffee shop by myself? Forget it. Go to a restaurant without a companion? Absolutely not. I've never even lived alone. I'm not sure why I am this way, to be totally honest, but it's something I've decided I need to actively work on. Obviously at this point it's a little too late to live alone, but there are so many things I want to start doing. I can do quick errands alone, and obviously I work alone. Just thought I'd clarify that before you think I actually just need someone attached to me 24/7. I can also be home alone just fine, I'm more so referring to alone time recreationally here! Anyway, on Thursday morning, I woke up with an urge to go to the farmers market, checkout the library, and grab some coffee at the Anaheim Packing District...solo. Andrew was home, and I could have easily changed my mind and asked him to come, but I didn't give myself enough time to think and I just left. I won't make this long winded, but I had the best time, and I'm going to make it a weekly thing for myself. Having those few hours just to myself, without the stress of work or anything else, was awesome. I bought some succulents and pretty flowers, sampled a ridiculous amount of cheese, had fun conversations with some vendors at the market, admired all the fun decor at the packing district (and obviously took some photos along the way!), and just chilled. It really set the tone for the rest of the weekend, and I felt so relaxed. I know that by 24, I should have made being alone a priority much sooner, but you know-I've never really had to. I'm always surround by friends, family, or Andrew. I'm thankful for that, but I want to explore this whole "just me" thing a little more. Before I go, here are a few photos I snapped on my mini adventure. Those flowers are my favorite thing ever, and they're still holding up pretty great!

Do you struggle with the fear of spending time alone? What do you enjoy doing during your solo time? 


  1. I'm suuuuper introverted, so spending time alone is NOT an issue for me! But it definitely is something you have to be intentional about, whether you're inclined towards it or not. I'm glad you got a bit of you time. Those pics are great!

  2. Good for you! I think we develop a different sort of knowledge base about ourselves when we are alone. We don't have to be an active role at the moment, no wife or mother, friend or co-worker, just ourselves. It's nice! I'm glad you enjoyed it.


  3. I love alone time! I just went on a 3 week vacation to London in January...solo! As a married mom of 2, let me just say...IT WAS AMAZING! I got to find ME again...do the things I like without thinking about anyone else! Definitely recommend alone time!

  4. I love that cute little coffee mug! I'm kind of the opposite; I LOVE my alone time, but I think that just comes with having a toddler attached to you all day. There's something so nice about just walking around Target by myself, and being able to take my time.

  5. Cute mug! I spend quite a bit of time alone since I'm pretty introverted, but I still find myself thinking I should do more alone. Like the errands, coffee shops, etc that you mentioned. My husband and I do almost all of that together most of the time and I think I need to shake that up!

  6. I love alone time and when I was living alone I did nearly everything solo (I even went to movies solo sometimes - which apparently is weird?! haha). Now that I moved in with my boyfriend, I find myself urging him to do everything with me most of the time. It's taken me a beat to reclaim and remind myself of how much I love my alone time. I try to remind myself that I was a person who got along just fine solo. I've even tried turning our second bedroom into more of "my space" and have been diligently trying to spend at least an hour in there watching Netflix or doing work without interruption!

    Trips to get brunch/desserts, tea/coffee, the library, the bookstore, Target, the vintage market, the local boutiques, and the farmer's market are so nice solo sometimes.


  7. I used to hate being alone but, since I moved in with my partner and work full-time caring for children, I CRAVE it. I used to have weekly "Kate Dates" where I'd go see a movie, grab a coffee or lunch, etc. solo and those really helped me fall in love with alone time. Sometimes people think "alone time" means "staying home" and that's boring!

  8. Being an introvert, I LOVE my alone time. And now that I'm a mom I rarely, if ever, get it. Good for you for stepping outside your comfort zone! You should try seeing a movie by yourself, it's so relaxing and you can see whatever movie you want without having to agree on one with a boyfriend/husband/etc!


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