Tips On Meeting Other Bloggers

Hey! Welcome back, and happy Tuesday!
Linking up for Treat Yo Self Thursday...on a Tuesday post because I can ;)

Today I decided I would talk about something that I think most of us deal with...
anxiety when meeting other bloggers.
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A few months ago, Melyssa came up with this really wonderful idea to get bloggers together to do charity work. I was beyond excited for so many reasons. I'd been a huge fan of her blog for a long time, and the thought of meeting her-nonetheless doing charity work with her, made me really happy. The day the first meeting rolled around, I was in total panic. See, I've been sick for a long, long time (you can read about that here) and I've really kept to myself since I was first diagnosed with my illness. I haven't bothered trying to make new friends in over 3 years, mostly because I just don't have the energy. I've never been this way, and this fear of allowing new people into my life is something that came to me when I got sick. Anyway, meeting day came, and I was just not having it. 20 minutes before the meeting I was pumping gas, horrified, thinking about how small my blog was in comparison, how the ideas I had were dumb, how no one would like me, how it was a mistake putting myself in this situation, etc. I actually had to force myself to go to the meeting, and for the first half I was not myself. I sat there quietly (and I am most definitely NOT a quiet person) and I wasn't voicing the thoughts I brought with me. Out of nowhere, the tiniest bit of confidence ran through me, and I decided to start talking. We came up with Blogger Brunch, and immediately got to planning. The planning process was the most stimulation I'd had with strangers in a long time, and it was so great! The week of the brunch, those same feelings of panic started again. I'd become so comfortable with the small group of bloggers I'd been working with, but the thought of meeting 20 other new people really frightened me. Blogger Brunch came and went, and it was one of the most wonderful experiences. To many, it was a morning of hanging out and chatting, but to me, it was the day I broke out of my 3 year hiatus. It was a big deal. This one event really rejuvenated me, and as silly as it may sound, it brought the old me out-and I love the old me.

 If you've ever attended a blogger meetup or have met a blogger in real life, you've probably experienced the stress that is meeting the person you (kindly) stalk on the internet. 

After reading a few brunch recaps from other bloggers, I realized we all shared this same fear of meeting one another to some extent. Our levels of nervousness may have varied, but we all definitely felt them. If you've been thinking about attending a blogger meetup but you share the same concerns, here are some simple tips for you that might make things easier...

1. Give yourself a confidence boost
Before I left for brunch, I gave myself a mini facial and picked out my favorite dress. I spent a little longer brushing my hair and doing my makeup, and I used my favorite perfume. Prepare to meet your future friends by starting off on a relaxed note. When you get ready in a rush, everything just seems to go wrong, know what I mean? Treat yourself a bit, it'll boost your confidence before you even get there!

2. Stalk them ahead of time
If you know of at least a few bloggers that you'll be meeting, but you've never really read their blog, read a few posts ahead of time so you get a gist of what they write about. If you both blog about the same thing, bingo! instant bffs, if the person you stalked blogs about food, ask them what their favorite recipe is, if the person you stalked blogs about travel, talk about places you've traveled or would like to travel to. Don't be a fibber though. If you've never read their blog, don't go on and on about how much you liked such and such post. Be genuine. If there's one post you really did like, try to remember the details and let the blogger know how much you loved it.

3. It's okay to be a fan
I had this fear that I'd freak people out if I told them I was obsessed with them and their blog. I didn't want to come off as some pesky fan girl. But guess what? We're bloggers. Which means we're basically celebrities. And celebrities LOVE to be showered in love and admiration. But really, who doesn't love being told their blog is great? Go on, be a fan! 

4. Break those barriers down
It's natural for us, especially as females, to cling to our small group when chatting. It can be intimidating to walk into a room when friendship circles have already formed. It's especially hard when other bloggers may already know each other. This was a big stretch for me, but I truly made an effort to include myself in as many conversations as possible. I mingled with the military wives and hung out in their circle for a bit even though I had no idea what they were talking about at times. Use this as a time to listen and learn about other people's lives. Ask questions, be involved. You can't sit back and wait for a group to come to you. This is where your big brave attitude has got to take over, and trust me, we all have it in us.  

5. Bring up those #bloggerprobs
You know how awkward it can feel to take 15 different shots of your food at restaurants?? Other bloggers feel that too! Your friends think you're crazy for spending hours on the internet talking to people you don't actually know?? Yeah, all bloggers get that! You have a lot in common with other bloggers, simply because you yourself are a blogger! Talk about those awkward blogging moments, I guarantee you everyone will chime in with an equally funny and awkward story.

6. Don't forget they're also human
I had to repeat this to myself about a million times throughout the brunch. It almost made me feel like a crazy person constantly saying "these people are human, these people are human, these people are human". Really though, bloggers are humans (gasp!). There's more to bloggers than just, well, their blog. Ask about their personal life (in a non creepy way of course). Get to really know them-I mean, how many times will you actually get to hear and see them instead of their words on a screen? 

I think we all became bloggers because at some point or another, we probably felt like those around us didn't understand our visions, dreams and ideas. We all turn to this community day in and day out to talk to women from all over the country (sometimes even the world) about things we don't even share with our boyfriends, husbands, or best friends. We find comfort in sitting alone in our rooms, typing away, saying whatever it is we want to say. It's normal to feel intimidated, but don't let that keep you from attending at least ONE blogger event. I promise you, you won't regret it. It takes a lot of courage, so if you gain nothing else but that from attending then you're already so ahead of the game! Be brave! Most importantly, be YOU!

What tips do you have for those meeting other bloggers for the first time? 

Thanks for stopping by,
Have a fantastic day!

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24 comments:

  1. I love this so much! And You!! I'm so nervous for the AZ event, even though I'm hosting it! I want everything to be perfect and ahh! Lol. This was a great post :) I cant wait to meet youuuuuuu some day! *fangirls*

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    1. I'm so excited for you to host your first event! You'll be so great!!! Also, the day we meet we will have a serious fangirling/wine drinking party :D

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  2. I was nervous to meet you even if it was just FaceTime instead of real time! I love your tips, especially the reminder that these people are human, these people are human, hehehe. I hope we get to meet in real life someday, and that I get to meet other bloggers too! Send some of you guys over to the east coast, haha.

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    1. You come to UUUUSSSSSS!!! Hehe :) obviously we WILL meet in real life someday!

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  3. I loved this post so much! I haven't been able to attend any blogger meetups (frankly because I haven't exactly found a niche of Arkansas bloggers anywhere near my age), but I would love to one day. I am definitely such a fan girl over so many blogger's and I would be nervous as all hell to meet any of them. Haha. These were some great tips to keep in mind!

    xoxo

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    1. Thanks Ashlee!!
      You should come to so cal...SO many bloggers here (including me of course!)

      xoxo
      Gossip Girl

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  4. I still haven't had the chance of to meet any bloggers I love (a bit difficult when you live on the other side of the pond), but I'm hoping to meet some close by soon. It's great to talk to them and I can't wait to meet them in real life. I would also love to do some virtual coffee dates :-) it's not the real deal yet, but at least a step closer :-)

    Absolutely loved your last paragraph that describes this journey so beautiful! Can't wait to finish all this work stuff and get back to blogging, I miss it! Almost there!

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    1. Cindy! I sure have missed you all over the interwebs! Hope work lightens up soon!!! We should totally have a virtual coffee date sometime soon! Hugs to you and your baby girl!

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  5. It's incredible all the feelings something like this can bring up...I'm so glad you did it and found your strength in it. Good for you, girl. It's a challenge to put ourselves out there sometimes, but a lot of times those challenges are really good for our growth. I haven't met other bloggers at an awesome event like this yet, but I'll keep this post in mind. And definitely remembering, we're ALL humans! :)

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    1. Thank you! And thanks so much for stopping by!!

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  6. This is such a brilliant post! I haven't any bloggers IRL just yet, but am going to a get together next week. Great timing lady! I always feel like a stalker, and like a little fish trying to play with all these big fish. Lol!

    ~Katy

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    1. Oh my gosh! So exciting that you get to meet some bloggers next week! Glad I was able to help :) have the most fun!!!

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  7. This is such a comforting post! I haven't met up with any other bloggers yet but this will definitely help when I do! I'd love to see a similar meetup around Atlanta!

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    1. So glad to hear that! Thank you! Hopefully you find a meetup in the near future!

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  8. This is great! I think most of us were nervous that day :) I love the idea of bringing up things bloggers deal with. You can totally bond over that if nothing else.

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  9. What a great post- thanks for sharing! I love your blog and I am glad I found you through Twitter- I look forward to following you further! xo http://novotnynarrative.com

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    1. Thanks so much for stopping by! Twitter is basically my new favorite these days :)

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  10. I love this!! Definitely how I felt at the Blogger Brunch. But seriously, I would never have guessed you were so shy at the first meeting. You were awesome! <3

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  11. haha these are such great tips!! I totally feel you on everything you said. I'm sad I didn't get to go, but also was a bit relieved bc I have been more shy lately. I feel like it's not like myself bc with old friends i'm pretty loud and even obnoxious. haha but with anyone new, i usually just sit quietly and observe.. esp in large groups. ALSO, can i add another tip?? have some mimosas or some alcohol. haha to add some liquid courage! sometimes does the trick for me haha

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    1. That totally happens to me with new friends too! My poor "old" friends, they probably can't stand me anymore haha. Also, there was definitely some liquid courage that day! Obviously that's the best tip-thanks for adding that! :D

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  12. Great post girly! I seriously loved that you read my blog and knew who the heck Penny was! I think for me the biggest thing I do is remind myself that I could lave with no new friends. That didn't happen, but if it did, I would be in the same place I was before. Great tips all around friend!

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