Welcome back!This Friday will mark one month of Andy and I being engaged. It has been a crazy busy month in so many ways, and this month alone has taught me more about our relationship than I ever expected. I always thought the minute I got engaged, the skies would part, a bunch of confetti would pour down on us and I'd immediately jump into planning my dream fairytale wedding. Turns out, getting engaged is not as whimsical as I expected. Don't get me wrong, I'm giddy with excitement to be engaged-but there's more to this new chapter in my life than just a shiny new ring on my finger...
I thought I'd use some photos of my 2 favorite boys-Andy and our little fur baby Duke! Because I might sound a little bratty in this post so hopefully pictures of my cute pup will remind you that you (probably) still like me.
1. Being engaged teaches you that marriage is not about YOU.There are many ways to go about being engaged. Because I've always been a person of faith, I'm really focusing on preparing my heart for marriage by reading and studying as much as possible about marriage in the Bible. Being a wife is a BIG. DEAL. It's a huge responsibility and commitment that goes beyond cooking, cleaning, etc. Being a wife will not be about me. My life as a wife will be about loving, supporting, and respecting Andrew and the family we will create together. My life as a wife will be about praying for my husband, and focusing on having God be the center of our marriage. When we were boyfriend and girlfriend, Andy made it a point to always treat me like a princess. I know that will never stop, but now that we are preparing to be husband and wife, I understand that my role is not princess anymore. My role is to be a woman of God who graciously takes said role with the utmost seriousness and respect. My life is not just "me" anymore. It's US. And US should not be taken lightly. This is all common sense I suppose, but it hadn't really struck me until I realized the heaviness that is marriage in the Bible. I'd love to talk about this in more detail if you'd all like to hear about it! Let me know!
2. Being patient and sharing is the new black.
Andy moved into my parents home about 2 years ago. We hadn't shared a room or bed, so it wasn't necessarily a typical living together arrangement. My parents are very traditional, and very Catholic, so they allowed him to move in and share a room with my brother because he works so close to our home and it was convenient for him. So we live like roommates I guess you could say. The past few months Andy started sleeping on the floor of my bedroom. Last night we finally moved his bed into my room (big stretch for my parents here by the way), that's right, we're now sleeping like Lucy and Ricky Ricardo. I've never shared a room before. Also, I'm a girl. I have a lot of crap. And now I have to share my tiny space. I was seriously pissed all day yesterday because I had to get rid of a few pieces of furniture and pack up a lot of my stuff. Sharing my room is not a big deal, the lack of space is. My room is seriously tiny! This takes me back to my first point...it's now about US. In a year we'll be married and have our own space, but for now, I need to learn to share my space. I need to learn to be patient and understanding of the fact that my space is his now, and it always will be.
3. Engaged people still fight.
We just fought yesterday. I was mad about moving all my stuff around. Ugh, ME. Anyway, It happens. Being engaged doesn't mean life stops happening.
4. Grooms are NID.
High five if you've watched The Wedding Planner a million times and you know what NID stands for! Grooms are Not Into Details. Andy's listened to me talk and talk and TALK about ideas I have for our wedding. He's got very few opinions, and has only made a few particular requests for our big day. It can be easy to get overwhelmed with planning a wedding, and I've had my moments where I feel like I'm doing it all by myself, but I'm not. Andy is helpful in more ways than I can explain and I'm grateful to him for listening to me talk nonstop. In my efforts to be a good fiance and (future) wife, I'm working on not taking his lack of attention to detail as him not caring about our wedding.
If you're married or engaged, what did you realize about marriage and yourself when you first got engaged? I'd love to hear all about it!
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Cheers to a wonderful day!